Saturday, September 28, 2013

Mister J's Living In Leather: How to Make Bleachers



Mister J's Living In Leather: How to Make Bleechers

Mister J's Living In Leather: Picking out that SIR that makes you wet




Picking out that SIR that makes you wet

Okay so let’s just put it out there.  Not every SIR is the right SIR for you.  I was collared to a very nice SIR for about 6 years.  When that relationship transitioned I took time to myself to figure out just what exactly I needed and wanted.  It wasn’t for several months later that I found another SIR I was willing to submit to, who is great.  When I’m on certain sites that the leather community frequents and see boys and girls begging to be collared.  Some boys even go as far as to change their usernames to things like “CollarMeSir”.  I have even seen a boy go too far and put his number on the website.   Sometimes the best thing to do is to take your time, and not to worry about when the special SIR is going to come into your life.  Yes I said “Wait” as the saying goes, “Good things happen to little boys who wait”.

To pick out the right SIR:

•    envision what attributes you want in a SIR
•    look at what personality traits best fits yours
•    what characteristics do you have that you want to grow?
•    what characteristics do you have that might be beneficial to a SIR?

Yes there are such things as boys who don’t live with their Sir, which is absolutely normal.  PLEASE do not think that you are not a boy or you are less of a boy because you do not live with your SIR.  Sometimes it’s best for both parties to feel out what kind of relationship can blossom from not living together at first.  BASICALLY SLOW YOUR ROLE, do not get collar because you’re in a rush to have a SIR.

Yes there are such things as bad SIRS.  I’ve seen abusive pseudo SIRS and SIRS that don’t know what they are doing.  It can be very dangerous especially during play.  Be very careful and make sure you have safe guards in place.

BOYS DO NOT DRINK THE KOOL-AID.  There are several SIRS that “collect” boys just to say or have boys around; it doesn’t make sense for this to happen.  Make sure that you analyze how the SIR works with his other boys.  Sometimes SIRS can bite off more than they can chew and that is an honest mistake, if they are honest with themselves, that’s even better.
Now I will leave you with this:

boys Bill of Rights

1. Every boy has the right to have his body, intellect, and emotions protected by his Dom.
2. Every boy has the right to choose the man whom he serves and to discontinue that service and take his leave without being subjected to physical, mental, or emotional abuse.
3. Every boy has the right to be cared for, disciplined appropriately, and allowed to feel pride in his submission.
4. Every boy has the right to protected sex if he so wishes.
5. Every boy has the right to privacy if he so wishes. No boy can be blackmailed, publicly humiliated, or physically coerced into service without his expressed desire to be so.
6. Every boy has the right to defend himself from physical, sexual, and emotional abuse.
7. Every boy has the right to consent or not to consent to sexual activities.
8. Every boy has the right to seek refuge, counsel, and advice from other subs and DOMS without the expectation of sex, money, or any other service in return.
9. Every boy has the right to a physically and emotionally available circle of friends.
10. Every boy has the right to protect his own possessions and finances against intercession, theft, and non-consensual acquisition.

SIRS: Please copy and paste this Bill of Rights into your online profiles if you wish to let subs know how you feel about their rights.

subs, boys, and pups: Please include the Bill in your online profiles and take a stand against abuse.

Link to story in The Leather Journal:

http://theleatherjournal.com/index.php?option=com_content&amp%3Bview=article&amp%3Bid=684%3Aboys-bill-of-rights&amp%3Bcatid=96%3Aliving-in-leather&amp%3BItemid=340

Mister J's Living In Leather: Mr. Maryland Leather 2010 (Justin Terry-Smith) Farewell Video



Mister J's Living In Leather: Mr. Maryland Leather 2010 (Justin Terry-Smith) Farewell Video

Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Justin's HIV Journal: Justin Learns To Relax



So I've decided to take my doctor's orders seriously. When it comes to HIV it is really important that one keeps their stress levels down and unfortunately it has been harder for me than not. I've decided to not let anything or anyone stress me out and if that mean cutting people out of my life completely or putting them in another category so be it. I also emphasize to always look after your own health. I've decided to go to bed earlier, drink less, and really try to quit smoking.

I had a situation where I accidentally made a mistake and was persecuted for it. The one person that I thought would believe me didn't and I got upset but this time it wasn't a normal upset. Some of the things that he said to me started making me have physical reactions. First I started to breathe irregularly, sweat and my chest started to hurt; I didn't know it at the time but I was having an anxiety attack. I was with friend's when this happened but I was clever enough to sequester myself in a room in the house because I didn't want anyone to see me at this time. After that moment I decided NO MORE STRESS.

So my son and I had a SPA/SHOPPING DAY and that was a great way to distress.
Even more recently there was a situation that happened at home with our son and I stayed calm and didn't fly off the handle:

My husband and I have a rule for the house that NOBODY is allowed to be in the house without permission or us being present. We both had Maryland Defense Force Drill last night when I get a phone call. It was another Foster Parent named Paula. Paula asked me if had seen her foster daughter Jade. (We noticed that whenever Jade and Londyn hang out together she badly influences him to stay out late when he is suppose to be home, hangs out at our house without her parents' permission etc.) I said to Paula, "No why?" "Jade said she was going over your house after school and I haven't seen her my husband even went to your house and knocked on the door and nobody answered" Keep in mind school is out at 2pm and it was about 7pm when I got the call. I immediately called my foster son Londyn. Londyn didn't pick up after me calling twice so I tried one more time. His butt picked up the phone before he did. His phone was in his back pocket and he didn't know it had picked up the call. I could hear Jade and Londyn in the background talking. I put it on speaker and l my husband listen to make I was not going paranoid. I then called back a 4th time and Londyn finally picked up the phone. "Hi Dad, how are you?" He sounded out of breathe I asked, "You sound like your outside what going on?" He said, "I was just walking Jade home" I said, "From where?" "The house" He replied. I said, "Okay You know you're not supposed to have anybody over when we are not there and without permission, you could've either called us or texted us to ask if Jade could come over, right?" He said, "Well yeah" "Okay I'm happy that you are ok and that you didn't lie about her being there, BUT you will be disciplined. When we got home the house was a mess. He is home today from school GUESS WHAT TIME TO CLEAN HOUSE, ROOM AND BATHROOM ESPECIALLY. Also the broken light will be coming out of his allowance AND NO X-BOX for a week. He is not allowed to hang out with Jade.

So I've decided to make a little list. It's like a Bucket List if you will

1) Skydiving
2) Bungee Jump
3) Become more active in HOPE DC
4) Climb a Mountain
5) Take more trips out of state alone
6) Horseback Riding alone
7) Indoor Wall Climbing
8) Act in an indie film/series or move short.
9) Camping for a weekend alone
10) Go on more spiritual retreats (Non-Christian Based)
11) Monthly SPA treatment
12) Be more serious about Yoga

This is short list and I will add to this after scratching some of them off as I go. I have to learn new ways and tools to calm myself down. I am a bit of a thrill seeker an adrenaline junkie and I now have to exercise that more than ever. It tends to relax me more often than not. It's what I call a good type of stress.